If you’re like me, you probably get a lot of facebook event invitations. And you probably send out a decent few as well. For a lot of them, RSVPing doesn’t really matter. If someone’s promoting their play, or drink specials at the bar they work at, or something like that, then fine, ignore it, or just put maybe, or put yes and don’t show up. Or put yes and do show up. Whatever, it doesn’t matter. But if you’re actually going to attend a social event, please give a truthful answer. Go back and change it later if you have to. But please take five seconds of the hours you spend procrastinating on facebook each day when you should be doing something productive, and give a truthful response to meaningful event invitations.
And don’t put maybe unless it’s absolutely necessary. When 47 people put maybe, it’s pretty much impossible to plan anything. Maybe it’s a party and it’s necessary to get a headcount to know how much food to get. Or perhaps a road trip where you’re carpooling and you need to know a) how many cars to take and b) who’s showing up so you don’t leave people behind. You get the picture. I realize that sometimes you genuinely don’t know whether you’ll be able to attend something. Fine. But I really don’t think all 63 of the people who put “maybe attending” for my Tony party last year were genuinely uncertain. Really, it will not hurt my feelings. And even if it did, trust me, you would much rather hurt my feelings than have me think that you are an idiot who can’t remember to change your RSVP from “maybe” to “yes” or “no” at some point before the event. I’m terrible at holding grudges, but I do remember when people do stupid things. (Okay, I’m probably not going remember everyone if 63 people respond maybe. But at least I can go back and look on the facebook event page.) Same thing goes for “not yet responded.” That’s for people who think “maybe attending” and are too lazy to do that.
Again, if you don’t know when you get the invitation, that’s understandable. But go back and change it later! Do me a favor, right now: go to facebook.com/events.php and edit your RSVPs to either “yes” or “no” for all of the social events where whether you’re attending or not makes a difference. If you’re not sure, promise to edit your RSVP once you know.
(I’m waiting.)
(No, really. If you’re reading my blog, you’ve wasted a couple minutes of your time, so you might as well take fifteen seconds and do something that people other than me will appreciate.)
There. Feels good to accomplish something, right? Your friends will thank you. And the next time you have a party and invite your facebook friends, you’ll appreciate the fact that they’ll RSVP truthfully.
while i agree with you on this.. there is also a flip side to this annoyance. and that is, all the invites.
i get bombarded daily with annoying invites. same ones, after i’ve said i’m going or not going. one invite or announcement i sufficient.
and what about the farm animals and heart, cupcake gifts, etc. what about that? i ignore them all. it’s not like i’m one of those with 1,000 friends. i do enjoy my small group and like to keep in touch with them.
i don’t do games, quiz’s and such, so why do i get this sort of thing daily, and by the same people??
event’s are different. they are expecting you to rsvp, and you should. but just as this is a show of poor manners and annoyance, so are the constant requests for games/quiz’s. *sigh*
I think people don’t realize that when you add facebook applications, you usually agree to let the application send out a request to all of your friends. Obviously it’s okay to ignore those.
May I just say I really really was genuinely umcertain if I was attending your tony’s party… I wanted to, and was trying really hard to get out of something else I was supposed to do… and failed.